To Be Fully Present

Saint-Sophia-Cathedral-in-Kiev

We are officially back in Kiev after heading to western Ukraine to visit Chernivtsi, the city where Vitaliy was born. It was quite the walk down memory lane.

The adventure ended with a day spent at Vitaliy’s grandparents farm in the village. There are so many pictures to share and so many stories to tell, but I’m finding that it’s all going to have to wait. One thing that I’ve learned and am trying to implement into my life is to be fully present wherever I’m at. Sometimes this applies to dinner with Vitaliy when I need to turn off my thoughts so that Vitaliy has my full attention. Other times this means that I need to put my phone away so that I stay engaged when I’m out with friends. But for today, I feel this looks like me giving up blogging for the week in order to have the extra time to spend with family here in Ukraine.

Life is short and time is very precious. I’m going to sign-off for the week in order to be fully present with the ones I hold dear. I’ll talk to you next week! Be sure to come back though, I attempted to milk a cow and want to tell you all about it.

This is a picture of Vitaliy and I outside of the Saint Sophia Cathedral in Kiev the day before we left for Chernivtsi.

Beauty Shines Bright

A pop of yellow flowers

Vitaliy and I just ended an incredible day exploring Kiev together. I am totally exhausted, but I didn’t want to forget this memory.

Every time I leave the apartment, I’m reminded of how dirty Ukraine is. I don’t mean that in a derogatory way. They just don’t have street cleaning services like in the U.S. or people to pick up trash. I finally understand why Ukrainians always take their shoes off upon entering someone’s home.

Today as we explored many different neighborhoods, there was one thing that stood out. The dirtier an area was, the more obvious it was to spot something pretty. At one point, I turned a corner and walked down an abandoned alley way. It was dirty and deserted, dark and gray. But my eye immediately caught the attention of some pretty flowers up ahead. It was so easy to spot the color amidst the contrasting gray. It reminded me that beauty is easy to spot amongst the ugliness of this world. Light is easy to glimpse in the darkness. Goodness is easy to notice amongst evil.

Just something to think about.

Vitaliy and I are leaving in the morning to travel to western Ukraine. I am finally going to see the city he was born in and the village he would visit every summer during visits to grandma and grandpa’s house.

A Big High Five

Being self-employed is funny business. Sometimes I joke that it’s very much like being unemployed.

But that’s just a joke. In reality, it’s a lot of hard work. But it’s similar in the sense that you don’t have a boss breathing down your neck. You don’t have quarterly performance reviews. (Though Vitaliy will likely tell you that I give him a performance review every day.) You don’t have to be to work at a set time. And you don’t have a steady paycheck each week. And let me just say, not having these things, though sometimes nice, can be difficult. I could often use a boss breathing down my neck and a set time to start my day.

So, how do we assess ourselves as a business? That is a good question! One that we’re still considering ourselves. Especially when we view success as having to do with much more than a P&L report. It is quite easy to fall into thinking that we’re not doing enough or that we haven’t grown enough. One small and simple way that we combat this thinking is to always celebrate every small accomplishment with a big high five.

When we read our clients’ reviews or see that our work has been published and vouched for by industry peers, we have to count that as more valuable (and much more exciting!) than any quarterly performance review. We were thankful to see Michael and Kate’s wedding featured on Style Me Pretty last month, but we were even more thankful to read Kate’s review on Yelp. To know that we served her well, produced a quality product, and gave her an unforgettable experience is how we can be sure that we’re doing our jobs well.

You can see Michael and Kate’s wedding on Style Me Pretty here. And to make this self-employed girl’s day – can I get a virtual high five?

Woodside backyard wedding on Style Me Pretty