The Refine Workshop

Rooftop restaurant at W Hotel in San Diego

This month has been a blur. The days are flying by and I have found myself not applying my “less is more” motto to my scheduling.

But every opportunity has felt too good to pass up. Including our current trip to San Diego for Alison Howard’s Refine Workshop which just wrapped up yesterday. Alison is a luxury wedding planner based in San Diego who has years of experience to speak into the lives of those just starting out or wanting to take their businesses to the next level. As usual, Vitaliy and I chose to divide and conquer which is how we try to do most things in our business. I attended the workshop and Vitaliy photographed the event.

While I’m not a wedding planner myself, I was thrilled at the opportunity to take a look into another aspect of the wedding industry in order to challenge myself in new ways. And to be quite honest, one thing I took away from the event was how much photographers and wedding planners have to offer each other. I learned so many things that could apply to my own business and I can’t wait to get home and start implementing some of the new ideas and changes we want to make to Pictilio in order to create an even better experience for our clients.

Alongside Alison, we also got to hear from Tim King of Tim King Photography, Cathy Olson of Love-Inspired, and Kylie Carlson from the Wedding and Events Institute. Alison brought together a great crew for her very first workshop. And while the speakers were top notch, there is nothing I find more valuable than the people sitting alongside me. I love attending workshops because of the relationships built with other attendees. And this was such an intimate group that it made the process of making friendships even easier. I can’t wait to stay in touch and see what everyone makes happen this next year. But right now, I’m going to close this computer and go explore San Diego with the man I love most.

Missed you, friends! xo

A little rooftop cocktail hour at the W Hotel in downtown San Diego ending the first day at the Refine Workshop.

Off To Grandma’s House

Cherry blossoms laughter

I often doubt my abilities of being a good friend, but these two women are teaching me how it’s done.

I first met Monika online during a 30 day vlog challenge that I try to forget every happened. Though it was a humiliating 30 days it did teach me a lot. And more importantly, it introduced me to Monika and I couldn’t be more thankful to now call her my friend. Monika then introduced me to Yuliya who it turned out goes to the same church as Vitaliy’s cousins where I had previously met her sister years earlier. It really is a small world we live in.

We took our relationship off the computer and into real life when we teamed up to go through Jasmine Star’s ReStart CreativeLive Workshop. Not only did our businesses grow as a result, but so did our friendship. Sadly, we don’t live close by each other so we try to plan 2 day retreats once a quarter to get together for serious girl time and business inspiration. It’s amazing how seamlessly these two can go together when like-minded creatives get together.

Monika and Yuliya, thank you for calling me your friend. I am grateful for every love note, text message, and prayer. I thank God for bringing Picmoya together! I love to laugh with you, dream with you, and eat with you. I cannot wait to see what God does in our lives and businesses this year. Thank you for your constant support! You bring me joy. xo Candace

Our most recent getaway took place in Dinuba, CA at Monika’s grandma’s house. There is nothing quite like going to grandma’s house even if it’s not your own grandma. It’s still the best!

Date Idea:
Secret Rendezvous

After some travel of my own, I arrived back home around 1am only to help Vitaliy out the door at 6am for a business trip. We were two ships passing in the night.

After almost a week of being apart, Vitaliy sent me a text message and asked me to cancel my plans for the following day and meet him for a secret rendezvous. After being married for 7 years, it’s very easy to lack spontaneity in the relationship. I was on board for anything with the words “secret rendezvous” in them. I met up with Vitaliy on the central coast in a cute little town called Paso Robles. It was only for a night, but it was just enough time.

I had a million and one reasons why I shouldn’t go. I had to cancel plans with a friend. I had a ton of work to get done. The three hour drive would be a waste of gas money. But at the end of the list, all I could think about was how much more important it was that I go – my marriage deserved and needed the investment. Vitaliy deserved my time and attention. And like I said, he had me at “secret rendezvous”.

Sometimes intimacy requires you drop everything, leave it all behind, and go on a secret rendezvous with the person you love most. If they truly are the most important person in your life, then show them with your actions. I promise it will be worth letting go of everything else. Even if only for a night.

Read more about our Make Marriage Happen series for March: Be intimate.

Library building in Paso Robles downtown park