What To Do When Someone Else Is Living Your Dream

Do you ever take a rabbit trail on Instagram? Yeah, that’s what I figured. I took one the other day and landed on an account and realized that someone else was living my dream. MY DREAM.

It was the exact same idea I shared months, probably years, ago with Vitaliy. And they were doing it! You know how these rabbit trails end.

I’m such a loser. Everyone else is capable of making their dreams happen except for me. I’m such a loser. I’m never going to amount to anything. I’m a loser.

Yes, “I’m a loser” is sandwiched between every other negative self-talk statement. Just me? Somehow I doubt it.

I recently had coffee with a friend who said she couldn’t go on Instagram anymore because she couldn’t handle seeing all the other moms who seem to have it all together. I was so thankful for her honesty because I can relate. I want to boycott Instagram and Facebook on the daily, but I know it’s a lost cause. Those platforms aren’t the problem, my heart is.

“How many times have I bemoaned the lack of excitement in my life, only because I’m choosing not to walk in the joy of the season God has called me to?” – Jess Connolly, Wild and Free

I have been doing a lot of bemoaning in my life lately. Lack of sleep and a teething baby and Instagram rabbit trails can do that to you. I share that in case you can relate, but let’s not stay here. Let’s do less IG rabbit trailing and more being present in the moment with the people we love most. We’re in the season we’re in for a reason. I’m preaching to myself here! I’m called to this season of 5am wake up calls to change poopy diapers. That is the current season I’m in. And as I bemoan, there’s a woman out there who may have rabbit trailed to my IG feed and will close her feed because her inability to conceive keeps her from being able to celebrate another mom’s blessing of a babe.

I get it. And I don’t have the answers to our social media problems. I wrestle with them everyday. But in a creative business like ours, social media is definitely an asset and something I need to figure out how to use for business while not letting it rule my world (heart).

So, what do you do when someone else is living your dream? What if someone else’s season looks so much more exciting than your own?

If you need to quit social media, quit. If you need to unfollow, unfollow. I’ve considered the first and done the second. But right now, I know I need to deal with my heart. The only thing that is going to help me is choosing joy in my current season and celebrating the amazing couple living out my dream. Gratitude and contentment are the issues of my heart that need to be dealt with today.

What about you? What do you do when you’re faced with these issues? Leave me a comment below!

And please, please go check out Creative Marriages! Michelle said it perfectly in their promo video, it doesn’t matter who’s doing it, as long as more and more people are talking about how to have a lasting, healthy marriage. Yes! I couldn’t agree more myself.

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