Yesterday morning our little neighbor friends came by to deliver cookies. As I opened the door to invite them in, they notified me that it was opposite day.

While I registered what that meant, they handed me a plate of cookies that looked like they had just come out of the oven. These cookies are not homemade and they are disgusting, they said. Wow, so yummy, I thought.

But I got it, it was opposite day. Of course we played along, but the deeper into the conversation we went, the more difficult it was to understand. I laughed out loud and said to Vitaliy, this opposite day game kind of feels like communication in marriage. The girls looked at me funny and asked for an explanation.

Here’s the most common occurrence of this in our marriage.

Vitaliy: Candace, where do you want to eat for date night?
Candace: Oh, I don’t know, why don’t you go ahead and pick.
Vitaliy: Ok, let’s go to (insert restaurant of choice).
Candace: No, I’m not really in the mood for that.

I tell him one thing when, in reality, I mean another. We all do this! I may do it more frequently then he does, but we all do it.

Let’s say what we mean and mean what we say. Because really, playing the opposite game is down right confusing.

Do you catch yourself doing this? What does your convo look like?