To Be Fully Present

Saint-Sophia-Cathedral-in-Kiev

We are officially back in Kiev after heading to western Ukraine to visit Chernivtsi, the city where Vitaliy was born. It was quite the walk down memory lane.

The adventure ended with a day spent at Vitaliy’s grandparents farm in the village. There are so many pictures to share and so many stories to tell, but I’m finding that it’s all going to have to wait. One thing that I’ve learned and am trying to implement into my life is to be fully present wherever I’m at. Sometimes this applies to dinner with Vitaliy when I need to turn off my thoughts so that Vitaliy has my full attention. Other times this means that I need to put my phone away so that I stay engaged when I’m out with friends. But for today, I feel this looks like me giving up blogging for the week in order to have the extra time to spend with family here in Ukraine.

Life is short and time is very precious. I’m going to sign-off for the week in order to be fully present with the ones I hold dear. I’ll talk to you next week! Be sure to come back though, I attempted to milk a cow and want to tell you all about it.

This is a picture of Vitaliy and I outside of the Saint Sophia Cathedral in Kiev the day before we left for Chernivtsi.

Beauty Shines Bright

A pop of yellow flowers

Vitaliy and I just ended an incredible day exploring Kiev together. I am totally exhausted, but I didn’t want to forget this memory.

Every time I leave the apartment, I’m reminded of how dirty Ukraine is. I don’t mean that in a derogatory way. They just don’t have street cleaning services like in the U.S. or people to pick up trash. I finally understand why Ukrainians always take their shoes off upon entering someone’s home.

Today as we explored many different neighborhoods, there was one thing that stood out. The dirtier an area was, the more obvious it was to spot something pretty. At one point, I turned a corner and walked down an abandoned alley way. It was dirty and deserted, dark and gray. But my eye immediately caught the attention of some pretty flowers up ahead. It was so easy to spot the color amidst the contrasting gray. It reminded me that beauty is easy to spot amongst the ugliness of this world. Light is easy to glimpse in the darkness. Goodness is easy to notice amongst evil.

Just something to think about.

Vitaliy and I are leaving in the morning to travel to western Ukraine. I am finally going to see the city he was born in and the village he would visit every summer during visits to grandma and grandpa’s house.

10 Ways To Survive Traveling Internationally With Your Spouse

Vitaliy and I survived a 19 hour trip to Ukraine and were still on speaking terms upon arrival. If we can do it, so can you!

Now, I’m not saying that we didn’t have any squabbles. Take a look at the picture of Vitaliy. That is how our trip began. But somewhere around hour 14 or 15 of the trip, we both began to break down a bit from lack of sleep. Me especially, look at that business face in my photo. Though neither of us were quite as chipper, we talked things out, made it to Ukraine and hit the ground running. Here’s how we did it.

10 Ways To Survive Traveling Internationally With Your Spouse

1. Invest in a neck pillow, blindfold, ear plugs and sleeping pills. The less sleep you get, the more likely you are to be irritable and impatient with one another. Come to think of it, these might be good for some of you to have at home!

2. Communicate. You are both unique individuals and your travel needs will be different. Talk things out, compromise, and find ways to stay together.

3. Share the armrest, metaphorically speaking. Find ways to give and serve each other.

4. Manage expectations. Traveling is no different than real life – things never go quite as planned. When you run into a snag, regroup, stay connected, and keep having fun.

5. Don’t focus on the destination. Make each step part of the adventure.

6. Give grace. Flying is extremely stressful. Expect your spouse to be a bit on edge at times. Be patient, give grace, and forgive when necessary.

7. Drinks lots of water and keep snacks on hand. Lack of food or drink will result in foul moods so plan ahead. This trip I brought an entire bag of fruits, trail mix, and beef jerky and it made it through security without a hitch. Bring empty plastic bottles to fill once you’re at your gate.

8. Be a gentleman and carry the heavy stuff. In exchange, be a lady and give him a good neck rub.

9. Plan individual activities. Though spending time together is highly recommended, there is nothing wrong with having some alone time. Be sure to bring along books, magazines, your computer, or take advantage of the on flight movies.

10. Toast to the good times! Traveling during the peek summer schedule made this trip to Ukraine quite the investment. In order to get our moneys worth, we took advantage of the free alcohol aboard our flight. We enjoyed a glass of wine with our meal and a little Cognac for dessert. It helped relax our nerves and assisted in putting us to sleep.

Our trip home has an extra flight in the itinerary with a total travel time of 24 hours. Yikes! I’ll be revisiting this post to remind myself what worked the first time around. Hope it helps you too!

Vitaliy and Candace