Try New Things

This August Vitaliy and I will be celebrating our 8 year wedding anniversary.

I honestly cannot believe I’ve been married for that long. Nor can I believe all that Vitaliy and I have been through as husband and wife. I suppose I’m not as surprised we’ve made it this far. What I am surprised by is that we’re still in love. We genuinely enjoy each others company. This I know is a blessing.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how different I am because of Vitaliy. His love is constantly changing me. He softens me. But not only that, I like different things because of him. I like sushi and audio books, road trips and moustaches. To name a few. And those are all new to me because of him. He loves those things so I learn to love those things. This is a picture of intimacy.

Sometimes I’ll try something he likes and I don’t end up enjoying it, but he knows I tried. He knows I wanted to learn what he loves. And I get to see a new side of him I didn’t know about. My life has become so much richer because of this “trying new things” he’s taught me. He changes me. I’m not the same girl I was 8 years ago. We change, we’re always changing. But in marriage, your changing should constantly be a changing and a morphing into one. I’m still me, but I’m never “me” at the expense of “we.”

Next time your spouse asks you to try something new, do it. Give it a try. Do it for them, but it may end up being your new favorite thing. And then you’ll get to do it or enjoy it “together.” And that’s what it’s all about, being together.

The latest entry for the Making Marriage Happen series. This month’s theme is on intimacy: be intimate and make your marriage happen.