Date Idea: Maintenance Nights

What a way to start off the new year! I have thoroughly enjoyed every minute of our Make Marriage Happen series with you so far. Thank you for all the encouraging feedback!

Today is our last post for January’s #beintentional challenge. And it only seemed right to save the very best for last. For this month, our hope was to encourage you to be intentional in your relationship or marriage. Don’t just hope that things will change or get better, you have to take steps, baby steps, towards making your marriage everything you want it to be. If you walk away with anything, walk away and apply what I’m going to share with you today.

For Vitaliy and I, having an unhappy marriage is not an option so we have to find ways to make it work. When you conquer one area in your relationship, don’t worry, another one will pop up that needs your attention. That’s just the way marriage is – bringing together two imperfect people will leave you with these kinds of results. This is how we do it in our relationship – maintenance nights.

Date nights can turn into maintenance nights. Sometimes you’ve had a hard week and the two of you just need a break from life, to go out, have some fun, laugh, kiss, in order to remind yourselves that you’re in this thing called life together. Other times you are each other’s reason for a bad week and in this case your date night likely needs to be turned into a maintenance night. You need to check in, have honest conversation, potentially cry, possibly forgive, get back on the same page, kiss, and go back out and conquer life…together. And to be honest, some of the best date nights include a little bit of fun and a little bit of honest communication, so it doesn’t have to be an either or situation.

In case communication is something you struggle with in your relationship, here are some questions to help you get started. Feel free to write one or two down and bring along for your next date night. Ask with vulnerability. Listen with love. And speak with respect. My hope and prayer is that this idea will change your relationship one step, one conversation, at a time.

And in case money is your reason for putting off date night, here’s one of our best date nights ever and it was under $3. It included laughter, tears, and a lot of honest communication.

Marriage Maintenance Questions