20 Creative Date Night Ideas

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This is the third part of a three part series to get us thinking differently about date night.

I began this series because I think we need to focus not on what we’re doing for date night but why we’re doing it. It’s less about the activity and more about the connection the activity helps bring about. As I mentioned in a previous post, date night as boyfriend and girlfriend is about getting to know each other and developing your relationship. Date night in marriage is about cultivating and deepening your relationship.

You can read the first part here and the second part here. Today I want to give you 20 Date Night Ideas that you may not have thought of as “date night” material, but are all great ways to invest in your relationship. I hope these help! We’ve enjoyed some ourselves and are looking to others for the future.

  1. Go to marriage counseling and grab coffee after to discuss.
  2. Go for a day or overnight trip away from all of your daily responsibilities. A secret rendezvous!
  3. Take a financial class together.
  4. Read or listen to a marriage book together.
  5. Maybe life is just hard and you just need a good laugh together.
  6. Spend a night praying together.
  7. If you aren’t having date night, spend an evening discussing why and making a plan together.
  8. Buy two sets of power sheets and do them together each month. We do!
  9. Enjoy a dinner, each asking the question, how can I better love or serve you this week?
  10. Take a night to look at each others calendars and see what needs to be canceled so you have more time together.
  11. If childcare is a constant issue, invest an evening finding or training a new babysitter.
  12. Try new things! Do something your spouse loves one week, and then something you love the next week.
  13. If rest is what you need, take a nap together.
  14. Get together with another family and discuss the idea of a date night swap. One couple watches all the kids one week, and then swap the next week.
  15. New to a city and feeling homesick, go play tourist together and grow to love your new hometown together.
  16. Find a mentor couple and go on a double date. Feel free to ask them to share some wisdom!
  17. Redo an older tradition or maybe your first date to conjure up some of those earlier feelings and fond memories of each other.
  18. Has a messy home or bedroom been causing conflict? Spend a night tidying things up to bring some order and, consequently, peace into the home and heart.
  19. Drop the kids to a babysitter and then go back home to spend some time in the bedroom together.
  20. Plan a maintenance night.

What do you do to invest in your relationship? Ideas are always welcome! Please leave me a note in the comments. And if you know someone who might need some new ideas, please pass this post along!

The Weekender

Here’s a collection of my thoughts and findings from the week. Wishing you all a restful and fun-filled weekend!

Stephen Colbert: Any Colbert fans out there? I was a fan already, but now I’m an even bigger one after reading this article. People’s suffering is sacred, he says. Yes!!! Yes it is! We’ve learned this ourselves. And there are so many people who I love that are going through difficult times that I pray and hope one day know, feel and believe this too. It took me seven years after the deaths of Vitaliy’s parents and brother to understand this and, as Colbert puts it, be thankful for the very thing I wish never happened.

The Best Burger in SF: I cannot believe what a big hit our search for the best burger has been. I had two friends send me “Best Burger in SF” lists this week, here and here. We clearly need to hunker down and do our final taste tests. There are way too many options! I think we’re going to need to narrow them down to around 6, test and call it a day. I won’t be able to fit in my clothes if we were to really try all of the options!

Humans of New York: My friend Joanna introduced me to Humans of New York this week. At first I was thankful, but then as I started reading through some of the stories I wasn’t sure I was so thankful. Some are so painful! But this is the reality of the world we live in and I don’t want to turn a blind eye. Go follow! The pictures and, most importantly, the stories are full of life and light and darkness and hope. Enjoy! And you can thank or maybe not thank me later.

Date Night: While an official date night didn’t happen this week, I did surprise Vitaliy with a spontaneous family outing to the city last night. I plan on celebrating one-on-one with him on Monday for his actual birthday, but I wanted us to celebrate as a family too. He loves being outdoors and picnics have become one of our new favorite activities. So we packed up the car, made sure to bring Rose’s pajamas with us since we’d be staying out past her bedtime (she didn’t seem to mind!) and picked up wine + a cheese/meat platter upon arrival at AG Ferrari Italian Foods. It was a very hot day yesterday so a picnic at Yerba Buena Gardens was the perfect way for Vitaliy to relax after an extremely demanding week. He loved it! And so did Rose and I!

Cheerleaders: My mom leaves a comment on every single one of my blog posts even if it’s a topic that may not speak to her directly. This week as I read each comment, it tugged at my heart strings. I know it’s her little way of letting me know that she’s still following along…still supporting my dreams. And this week, I needed some encouragement from my #1 cheerleader. Running your own business is hard. And this is a hard season for our business. Being pregnant and then having Rose, we weren’t able to invest in the business like we normally do. We had just enough time, energy, and drive to take care of our current clients. And the business took a hit for it! On the one hand, I’m thankful for the slower season as it gives me more time with Rose. But as a business owner, it’s always a bit nerve wracking. So, thank you mom for your sweet and subtle nudge this week! I hope I can be the kind of cheerleader for Rose and her dreams the way you have always been for me.

Photo: Selfie shenanigans at the park last night!

Birthday Picnic

Make Marriage Happen With Kathryn Duckett –
Part 3

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To end this series with Kathryn, I asked her to share one of her favorite date ideas with us.

We believe there is a strong case for date nights and that each one is like making an investment in your marriage. If you need some inspiration, you can check out our date night feed here. And as new parents who have to be much more creative about date night, we are always welcome to new ideas. Thank you, Kathryn! I love your ideas and tips!


One of our favorite dates is exploring fun and quirky restaurants. Thomas and I love trying new dishes, simply being together, and taking time away to talk.

Make a Foodie Bucket List

We would forever be going to the same place if it weren’t for our foodie bucket list. Every time we hear about a good place or drive by a restaurant that looks interesting, we add it to a list in the reminders app on the iPhone. Then, we check it off once we go. It’s nice to be able to look back at all the fun places we’ve gone over a few years too!

Take Time Out from Tech

The best nights we have are when I “accidently” leave my phone at home or I purposefully stash it in the glove box before we head in. Since I’m connected to email or social media or staring at a screen all day for work, sometimes I have a hard time unplugging and being present with my husband over dinner. This helps me remember the workday is over and it’s ok to leave it there.

Spread Joy and Say Thanks

Thomas is from Oklahoma (The friendliest state ever he tells me!) so he is always chatting with our waitstaff. I love that he’s shown me that something as simple as a genuine compliment given to the server, or making a point to stop and tell the manager how great our experience was can add so much joy to the night — not just for the folks working a long shift, but really for us too!


If you have enjoyed getting to hear from Kathryn this week, I highly suggest you go follow her on Instagram and Facebook. She has so much wisdom to share! I’m always inspired by her honesty and transparency. You can see her beautiful design and branding work on her website and catch up on her blog.

In case you missed them, Kathryn’s previous posts are here: Part 1; Part 2