Beauty Shines Bright

A pop of yellow flowers

Vitaliy and I just ended an incredible day exploring Kiev together. I am totally exhausted, but I didn’t want to forget this memory.

Every time I leave the apartment, I’m reminded of how dirty Ukraine is. I don’t mean that in a derogatory way. They just don’t have street cleaning services like in the U.S. or people to pick up trash. I finally understand why Ukrainians always take their shoes off upon entering someone’s home.

Today as we explored many different neighborhoods, there was one thing that stood out. The dirtier an area was, the more obvious it was to spot something pretty. At one point, I turned a corner and walked down an abandoned alley way. It was dirty and deserted, dark and gray. But my eye immediately caught the attention of some pretty flowers up ahead. It was so easy to spot the color amidst the contrasting gray. It reminded me that beauty is easy to spot amongst the ugliness of this world. Light is easy to glimpse in the darkness. Goodness is easy to notice amongst evil.

Just something to think about.

Vitaliy and I are leaving in the morning to travel to western Ukraine. I am finally going to see the city he was born in and the village he would visit every summer during visits to grandma and grandpa’s house.

10 Ways To Survive Traveling Internationally With Your Spouse

Vitaliy and I survived a 19 hour trip to Ukraine and were still on speaking terms upon arrival. If we can do it, so can you!

Now, I’m not saying that we didn’t have any squabbles. Take a look at the picture of Vitaliy. That is how our trip began. But somewhere around hour 14 or 15 of the trip, we both began to break down a bit from lack of sleep. Me especially, look at that business face in my photo. Though neither of us were quite as chipper, we talked things out, made it to Ukraine and hit the ground running. Here’s how we did it.

10 Ways To Survive Traveling Internationally With Your Spouse

1. Invest in a neck pillow, blindfold, ear plugs and sleeping pills. The less sleep you get, the more likely you are to be irritable and impatient with one another. Come to think of it, these might be good for some of you to have at home!

2. Communicate. You are both unique individuals and your travel needs will be different. Talk things out, compromise, and find ways to stay together.

3. Share the armrest, metaphorically speaking. Find ways to give and serve each other.

4. Manage expectations. Traveling is no different than real life – things never go quite as planned. When you run into a snag, regroup, stay connected, and keep having fun.

5. Don’t focus on the destination. Make each step part of the adventure.

6. Give grace. Flying is extremely stressful. Expect your spouse to be a bit on edge at times. Be patient, give grace, and forgive when necessary.

7. Drinks lots of water and keep snacks on hand. Lack of food or drink will result in foul moods so plan ahead. This trip I brought an entire bag of fruits, trail mix, and beef jerky and it made it through security without a hitch. Bring empty plastic bottles to fill once you’re at your gate.

8. Be a gentleman and carry the heavy stuff. In exchange, be a lady and give him a good neck rub.

9. Plan individual activities. Though spending time together is highly recommended, there is nothing wrong with having some alone time. Be sure to bring along books, magazines, your computer, or take advantage of the on flight movies.

10. Toast to the good times! Traveling during the peek summer schedule made this trip to Ukraine quite the investment. In order to get our moneys worth, we took advantage of the free alcohol aboard our flight. We enjoyed a glass of wine with our meal and a little Cognac for dessert. It helped relax our nerves and assisted in putting us to sleep.

Our trip home has an extra flight in the itinerary with a total travel time of 24 hours. Yikes! I’ll be revisiting this post to remind myself what worked the first time around. Hope it helps you too!

Vitaliy and Candace

A Big High Five

Being self-employed is funny business. Sometimes I joke that it’s very much like being unemployed.

But that’s just a joke. In reality, it’s a lot of hard work. But it’s similar in the sense that you don’t have a boss breathing down your neck. You don’t have quarterly performance reviews. (Though Vitaliy will likely tell you that I give him a performance review every day.) You don’t have to be to work at a set time. And you don’t have a steady paycheck each week. And let me just say, not having these things, though sometimes nice, can be difficult. I could often use a boss breathing down my neck and a set time to start my day.

So, how do we assess ourselves as a business? That is a good question! One that we’re still considering ourselves. Especially when we view success as having to do with much more than a P&L report. It is quite easy to fall into thinking that we’re not doing enough or that we haven’t grown enough. One small and simple way that we combat this thinking is to always celebrate every small accomplishment with a big high five.

When we read our clients’ reviews or see that our work has been published and vouched for by industry peers, we have to count that as more valuable (and much more exciting!) than any quarterly performance review. We were thankful to see Michael and Kate’s wedding featured on Style Me Pretty last month, but we were even more thankful to read Kate’s review on Yelp. To know that we served her well, produced a quality product, and gave her an unforgettable experience is how we can be sure that we’re doing our jobs well.

You can see Michael and Kate’s wedding on Style Me Pretty here. And to make this self-employed girl’s day – can I get a virtual high five?

Woodside backyard wedding on Style Me Pretty